I honestly just laugh at dumb asses who think they can drive me into the ground by insulting me.

1 – I KNOW I do not have the perfect body!  I never said I did!

2 – If you are the type of person who puts people down when they are doing their best to be their best, I honestly do NOT want to know you anyway. (I will pity your ignorance from afar, Thank You!)

3 – You obviously have NO IDEA the shit that I have lived through to think that you can beat me down by throwing out a, “You do look strong for a fat girl!” on a post of mine with the hashtag #StrongIsTheNewSkinny , THINK AGAIN!!!

4 – F U !

So, in response to this person who hides behind a fake name and had a profile picture of an offensive meme, I would like to say a few things that would answer his/her question, “What would make anyone who wants to get fit want to follow a fat chick’s lead?”

I know how hard it is to have your weight limit your movement.  I know what fear boils up inside of you when you even think about putting on workout clothes when they are a size 2x-3x.  I know what it is like to be bullied and put down because of my size.  I just want to be healthy and fit!  Everyone’s goal is NOT to look like an airbrushed fitness model on the cover of a magazine!  Some of us simply want to learn to live how to be healthy and fit and not feel like we can never go to a BBQ or have pizza ever again!

 Booze, drugs, and food were always there to numb me out and help me forget all the emotional and physical pain that I was going through.  Dealing with abuse and loss at a young age sent me down a rough road that I felt no one would ever understand.  And how would they?  I was told to act like it never happened and everything would just go away and be fine.  Guess what?  It wasn’t!  

So a large portion of my journey to fitness, was NOT about being physically fit!  I have to work on the excess weight between my ears just as much as the excess weight on my waist line.  And if you have heard the saying, “It isn’t really about the Twinkie!”, it really is SO TRUE!  I wasn’t, and still don’t, eat because I am hungry.  The void I am trying to fill comes from a very different place.  The void of love.  The void of success in my life.  The void from fear and/or frustration of not being able to do something.  The void left from questions unanswered.  The void left from someone making me feel like I would never be enough. 

Filling those voids is way more complicated than putting food in your mouth, but trying to use it to fill them was one of my defense mechanisms. 

(saw this on Facebook today and thought it was very fitting for this blog)

So am I the most qualified to be a health and fitness coach?  Maybe not by all standards, but I AM a Beachbody Coach.  I AM a Certified Personal Trainer through the National Academy of Sports Medicine.  And I do come with a lot of personal experience of what has and has not worked for me.  And I will push you!  I will not coddle you and tell you that it is going to be easy, because it takes and investment of time and money, and it takes HARD WORK!  And you will NEVER stick with anything that you get for FREE!  We are a value driven, and Free is simply that.  Free of Value.

But I am also an abuse survivor.  A childless mother.  I have RA.  I have had 3 back surgeries including a lumbar to sacro fusion.  And I have been a “Give Up Drunk” who was fully prepared to die of any number of genetic diseases that I was sure to get, all while sitting on my ass doing NOTHING to prevent them from coming.

So, if you want to send me a nice note criticizing me for how much of a role model I am NOT because I am not a size 2 and I jiggle and don’t have cut up muscles or a six pack, I say BRING IT!  Because neither does a large population in America, and honestly, we don’t identify with perfect.  For most of us, not only do we not identify with it, but it really isn’t what we are going for.  Would I like to be more fit than I am right this minute?  Of course!  But I can’t be happy when that is ALL that is in my life!  I need real people.  Real food.  A beer on Fridays after a LONG week!  

I am done trying to be someone else’s highlight reel every day of my life!  I am flawed, but I work every day to be My Best ME!!!  And I would love to help YOU be your Best You!  

Email me today at bodybybrendat@outlook.com