Time to move forward and leave the past behind me.
MAKE TODAY GREAT!!!
Time for a small confession.
As a Beachbody Coach, I DO at least TRY all of our programs when they are released, but some I don’t do the full calendar, or even every workout within the program.
In September, we are offering an amazing savings on the PiYo Challenge Pack from Chalene Johnson. And since my Crew team leader, Coach Jimmy is in Drench, me and 2 of the local coaches on my team decided to give it a try in my garage gym. Well, it IS called Drench, and my garage WAS about 90 degrees last night, but we had 3 fans going and we are tough girls, so we gave it a go.
But THIS is where things get interesting!
If you know my story, you know that I have a lumbar spinal fusion from L3-S1, that was put in during my 3rd back surgery in 1999 as a result of severe instability of my spine from a 1994 work injury when I was 22 years old working as a CNA at a Veterans’ Nursing Home. This is what my back looks like during that surgery and now in X-ray.
Since that fusion, my balance or flexibility have never been even close to what it used to be. Atrophied hamstrings and psoas and a cut erector spinea muscle being the biggest reasons. Fear of moving and hurting myself worse and depression that resulted in a love affair with prescription drugs, booze, and my couch, all while ballooning up to nearly 300# also didn’t help.
But back to my point…
We were all SOAKED!!! We looked like we had gone swimming in our clothes! At one point, I changed my head position, and sweat RAN off the top of my head!
Conclusion of the story? PiYo is an AMAZING all encompassing fitness workout!
Not only does it work on flexibility and stretching and core work like you expect from the name, but also cardio and strength training! WOW! And this girl is a bit sore this morning. I just Thank God that I used my Beachbody Performance Recharge last night, or I may not have been able to get out of bed today! 😀
So, if you are willing to start at the beginning and work up to the more advanced workouts, I am 100% positive that you would get FABULOUS results from this program. I did have to slow down and/or do the modifications for a few things, but maybe with a little more PiYo in my life, my balance would actually improve! 🙂 I am willing to give it a try and plan to add it to my regime more often. Just maybe not DRENCH again too soon 😉
If you are interested in trying this amazing program for yourself, contact me at any of the places below, and we can get you started today!
MAKE today GREAT!!!
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I was challenged today to share with you a part of my story that you may not know. Something I don’t talk a lot about. My wedding day! Well, let’s actually let’s start 6 weeks before my wedding day. It was March 9, 2003. It was a beautiful spring Sunday, and I was working in my yard. Cabin fever had got me like it did every winter, and I was looking forward to getting some flower beds cleared to prepare them for planting. Nearly every Sunday(unless I had been shopping with her the day before), I called my Mom. That day, I was going to call her when I went inside for the evening. That is a call I never got to make. We got a call from my Dad saying that Mom had passed suddenly in her sleep sitting in her favorite chair.
To say the least, I was DEVISTATED! My Mom was my best friend. She was the one person that no matter what crap I pulled, she still loved me totally and unconditionally! And trust me, I pulled some doozies! But that is a novel for another time. She was my sounding board for EVERYTHING! My confidant. But she was always in poor health. She had diabetes from a young age, which lead to heart disease, major eye problems, and eventually left her going to dialysis 3 days a week for the last 8 months of her life due to complete renal failure.
How was I supposed to have the “Happiest Day of My Life” without HER? As I sat next to the gurney that she was on in hospital, holding her hand, I swore to myself that I would lose the weight, take better care of myself, and NEVER put anyone through all of the worry that she put us through with her health problems. I was lying to myself. I made it to my wedding day, I married my other best friend, and it was a wonderful happy day. But there was still something missing, and I slipped into a dark place for awhile. I was sad. I was depressed. And my replacement friends, became food and alcohol. LOTS of alcohol! I sat around for the next 5 years getting fatter and more unhealthy and more self-loathing.
But something told me in September 2008, that I was NOT a lost cause! That no one is so broken that they can’t work on being MORE. That is the thing about Rock Bottom…You still have a choice. Settle and stay there until rock bottom becomes disease and death, or MAKE the changes you want in your life and RISE UP!
No one can do it for you! YOU choose! I was a scared, broken, depressed, sick, disabled, obese, chain smoking drunk who had never finished anything in her life, on my Day 1. It’s OK! You can have as many FIRST steps as you need. As long as you never choose to take your LAST step!
So if you need a cheerleader in your corner, someone to stay accountable to, someone to push you a little along the way, or just someone that you can reach out to that understands that being fit does not always mean you look like a fitness model, but you are doing your best to be YOUR personal best…I would love to help! Contact me about joining one of my Beachbody Challenge Groups, or about joining my team and leading by example as you are on your journey.
MAKE today GREAT!
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WOW! It has been over a MONTH since my last blog! I would say I am sorry, but life has simply been amazingly busy lately. My “Get Me Through The Holidays Support and Accountability Challenge Group” is doing AMAZING! They have lost OVER 150# so far, with 2 weeks to go! And here I was just hoping to keep from gaining any during the holidays, but these girls are kicking booty and inspiring me to lose some of the weight that I had put on over this stressful summer.
Add in getting ready for Christmas, and around my house, that means decorating! They don’t call me”Griswold” for nothing! 😉 But I think I am done and ready to just enjoy the rest of the holiday season. Not baking as much this year, because…well….does anyone REALLY need it? Traditional triple chocolate cake and rum cake both have to be made, along with a couple cookies, but that is about it.
OK…I am getting off track. But now that you know that I have been a little busy, back to the task at hand.
HOW do you see you?
No matter where you are in your journey, Day 1 or at your goal, you must see yourself, flaws and all, as a beautiful person. Because YOU are the only person who can do this for you! It is time to set the BS excuses that you tell yourself aside and get busy improving your health! Excuses are just lies you tell others so that you can try to convince yourself that you have a legitimate reason for not getting something done. Trust me, I do it all the time. I am the Queen of the Procrastination Excuse!
But now it is time to debunk a few excuses. Since excuses are just lies that you tell yourself, you owning up to yourself on the ones that are calling you out is going to help you decide to commit to the work so that you can finally see real success.
#1~ I don’t have time! REALLY?!?! Did you REALLY just say that to me? I have a full time job, a part time job, and my own business. Not to mention a family of 7, yes, all 4-legger kids, but they need taken care of and love and affection too! Yes, I know I procrastinate on many things that if I just did them, I could be so much farther in my business and have better relationships. But those are my fears to deal with, and right now we are talking about YOU! 😉
If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, take action, and ASK FOR HELP in that action. Human engagement is what is lacking in so many plans to “get healthy”. You don’t have to do it alone. I will be your accountability, but YOU must first reach out and make the commitment to do the work.
#2 – But I am too out of shape to do what what it takes to get fit. This one is, well, I am sorry to tell you, but just DUMB! Do you REALLY think I started out where I am now? I got winded on my first walk going just a block from my house and back. My first set of push ups was against a wall, and I could only do 4! It is about taking the first step. I know it is hard! Trust me, I know! And yes, there will be tears. There will be doubt. And there will be times you want to quit. But it is not just a workout or nutrition plan you are quitting on, You are quitting on your WHY. Remember the reason you wanted to start down this path, and honor that by taking that first step, continuing to take each next step, and never giving up!
#3 – But the progress is SO SLOW. You have GOT to stop living in the “Instant” Society! Things that you get for free or things that come quickly, how much do you REALLY appreciate them? We all have FREE workouts and diet plans available to us at the click of a mouse. I myself have given away my own workouts and diet plans, the EXACT things that I did and lost 125#, and for the most part, they basically ended up in the garbage. I find that many people do not truly appreciate something if it is handed to them. I myself lost 87# back in 1996, very quickly. Within 4 months of my goal date, I had gained back 35#. And within 5 years, had gained it all back, and they brought friends. Why? because I did it in a way that was focused around deprivation and fast weight loss. The progress in the pic below, took me years! To lose the weight, gain the muscle, achieve my fit, athletic body. It didn’t come fast, and it didn’t come from starvation, deprivation, or a magic potion. It came from deciding to commit to doing the work it was going to take to make a LASTING success.
#4- I will just end up with loose skin again and that makes me feel just as bad as being fat because I still won’t look good in a bikini. Scars, stretch marks, loose skin. I have them all. But I have learned to wear them with pride. Here is a poem that my friend Mark Cummings wrote about being proud of your scars~
I wrote this for all those who have been scared inside and out. Don’t forget you’re still here because you have a purpose and you are STRONG ENOUGH, and GOOD ENOUGH to earn what you’re worth!
These scars I wear with pride
These scars I dare not hide
Remember the battles I have fought
Remember the lessons I was taught
On the surface and inside deep
Onward and upward to my feet
And if my struggles get too hard
I’ll look down to see my scars
Though at times they appear unsightly
But only because my fights been mighty
So These scars I wear with pride
And these scars I dare not hide
A little more of my views on the subject from my personal experience:
The scars I have, both the mental and physical, remind me of what I have lived through to become the strong person I am today. The stretch marks, remind me how hard it is to be obese, and the shame of people seeing me. And last but not least, the loose skin. I have been asked many times if I was going to have surgery to get rid of it, but to be honest, it has tightened up some, and although I know it will always somewhat be there, I have learned to accept it for what it is. Oh sure, I will never look HOT in a bikini, and I still have issues with anyone seeing my belly, and a padded, push-up bra is going to be a necessity for the rest of my life, but then I think back, and remember… I NEVER looked HOT in anything before, and I do now! I NEVER wanted anyone to see my belly when I was closing in on 300# either, so nothing new there. And I NEVER had voluptuous, perky boobs anyway, so what is the difference? LOL!
What is the difference?
I am no longer Pre-diabetic. I no longer have a cholesterol reading of “gravy”. I no longer have high BP. I can walk up a flight of steps without getting out of breath. I RAN A FREAKING MARATHON! I teach Zumba classes. I am sitting here writing on a health and fitness blog!!! And because my passion to help others feel the way I feel now, with more confidence, more energy, less headache from worry about what health issue is going to pop up next, I became a Beachbody Coach. I have always wanted to help people. As a young student, I wanted to be a chiropractor, so I started my medical career by going to the vocational center at my high school and getting certified as a nursing assistant. When I got pregnant my senior year, and then lost the baby, I also lost all ambitions of returning to school, so I settled in as a CNA at a nursing home. When I got hurt, and told I could not return, I got a job in the business office at a local pharmacy. I thought at least I would still have my foot in the door of a career in health. But I had let the fire for that passion of truly making a difference burn out. I went from being chubby and overweight to obese and then morbidly obese. I settled in to a mediocre life.
I believe that God put me here for a reason, and I that fire has been reignited.
If you are ready to start your journey to health and fitness, I would love to help. Find me on Facebook @ Body By Brenda or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
In January 2013, a very nice guy named, Jeremy, who was a friend of mine on Facebook that I met actually through following his Mom, Sandi Krakowski, to learn more about blogging, started talking to me about Shakeology and Beachbody. He was fairly new to the business, but was working on losing weight himself at the time, and was having amazing results with Shakeology and P90X. I wasn’t really thinking I wanted P90X, but when I found Les Mills COMBAT on his site, I WANTED IT! And I was very into improving my nutrition, and after adding up all the supplements that Shakeology was going to replace, the $130 price tag was actually a LOT LESS than what I was spending at the time. Then, Jeremy told me about Coaching and that I could get a 25% discount and had the opportunity to actually build a business with it. OK…if you know me, you know I am…well…let’s call it “frugal” 😉 So with the money I was actually going to be saving monthly, I was IN!
I know it often surprises people, but I am actually kind of a shy introvert who does not get out much. I am a homebody. Which is another reason that the Home DVD programs were of huge interest to me. Sure, I liked going to the gym, but I never talked to many people. I was there to WORK, not chit chat, and people who were there just to talk while they put in their “time”, were just hindering me from getting my work done so I could get back to my home and my life. So yeah, working out at home sounded pretty good to me 🙂 So on February 16th, I placed my order. Needless to say, I have NOT regretted that decision.
Since starting with Beachbody, I have made so many like minded fitness friends. And have found an amazing accountability group for both my fitness AND my business. I have also learned a lot about myself and how to improve from all of the personal development that Beachbody offers and my team has introduced me to. THAT in itself was worth becoming a coach, since I struggled with self-worth and self-worth all my life. And most importantly, I have been able to reach more people than I ever thought possible through Social Media and helped them start, or take the next step, on their journey to health and fitness. For years, I was an obese, beer swilling, chain smoking, couch potato, and at 37, I made the decision to make a change my life and become healthy and fit. I have inspired a few family members and friends to make the change, and I love that! And the fact that with Beachbody I am getting to meet and introduce MORE people to health and fitness is AMAZING! You never know who YOU can inspire to change their life for the better!
So, if you are just looking to get in shape and be a customer using Beachbody programs and Shakeology, that is AWESOME! But, if you are interested getting the 25% discount on your monthly Shakeology AND all future Beachbody programs, OR if you are interested in building a business either making it full-time of part-time to earn some extra money, I would LOVE to have you as part of my team! Message me on Facebook or email me at email@example.com and I would love to get you started today! Either as a Discount Coach or as a Business Building Machine, you are welcome to take part in all of the same opportunities I have to learn from the wonderful teams I belong to. PLUS, the discounts,the trips and eve the chance to earn FREE trips, the webinars, the PD. It is all worth it! 🙂
Yep, I am STILL here! It has been a crazy busy last few months! With a FT job, being a Zumba Instructor, Beachbody Coaching, selling our Dad’s house(and clearing it of 48 years worth of memories), and still trying to find time to relax occasionally with my friends and family so they remember what I look like, I have found little time to write. Which really stinks, because some of my best days always follow me spilling my guts on this blog and sharing myself with the world.
I am listening to the most amazing book on my commute to work this week, and I am finding it VERY pertinent to many of us who struggle with believing in ourselves and finding our worthiness to be the AWESOME people we have the opportunity, the desire, and the RIGHT to be! We just need to have faith in ourselves and take that leap! I KNOW I can be a magnificent Beachbody Coach, motivator, accountability leader, and all around Inspirational Badass! But I hold myself back.
One reason I think of, is that I can’t do it as fast or in the exact same way that others that I have witnessed “make it”, so I figure my way “CAN’T” be right. It “CAN’T” work!
AM I RIGHT?
If everyone was EXACTLY the same, and only connected to that ONE type of person, the world would be a pretty boring place. On my personal page yesterday, I posted a pic of Kurt Cobain with the quote, “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of who you are.” I am failing because I am trying to be someone else. I am trying to 100% duplicate what works for THEM, without adding any “Brenda” to it. Obviously that is NOT going to work.
In the book I am listening to, “You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero, Jen says, “You are the ONLY You there is, and you are the only You there ever will be!” She goes on to say, “Do not deny the world the only chance it will ever have to bask in your brilliance.”
At first I giggled at that, and thought WHY would anyone ever want to “bask in my brilliance”? Do I even have “brilliance”? And is it REALLY worth basking in? Then I got to thinking about something someone said to me just last night. A person who I recently met for just a few minutes, told a friend, “…there is something special about her.” I of course just laughed it off as I do all compliments. But it really hit a spot in my heart that made me wonder….”Is he right?” Do I truly have these gifts to offer the world and help others SEE IN THEMSELVES what they truly can be? The old line, “If I can do it, anyone can” UGH! I heard it a thousand times when I was fat. Shoot! I have used it several times myself! I hate the way it sounds. So cliche, so insincere. BUT, I do believe that each person has a “WHY” deep inside them. And once they identify it, with that “WHY” in mind each day, they CAN accomplish what they long to achieve. Be the person they truly WANT to be.
It isn’t magic.
But it IS “MAGICAL”!
When I FINALLY found MY WHY deep inside of me, and I decided once and for all to lose the weight, quit smoking, become a casual drinker instead of a daily drunk, quit smoking 2 packs of cigarettes a day, fight to get past the depression and pain, and LIVE MY LIFE, it happened for me. When I finally realized that what I was doing was keeping me in a state of “Chronic Unhappiness” even though I was married to my best friend, had a job, a roof over my head, a car, family who cared about me, and so many other blessings, THAT is the day I was truly BORN! This IS the ME that I am meant to be! This is who I am being lead to share with the world.
Maybe you don’t need my help. Maybe you don’t need my kind of accountability coaching. Maybe you don’t need my services, products, or friendship. But that’s OK. Find those who you connect with. This is a BIG world! And there are people out there who want to help YOU grow to YOUR full potential.
As Always, MAKE today GREAT!
And I will SEE YOU AT THE TOP!!!
Another busy weekend in the books! And Monday is going to be even busier, so here are the last 3 days’ Confidence Builders! –
DAY 19 –
30-Days To a More Confident You!
Day 19 – Call Out Your Posse!
To build your confidence, you want to surround yourself by other like-minded people who have a positive attitude and will help you build your confidence and support you in your dreams.
Build your “posse” of those people, and kick out anyone who is negative or believes you can NOT reach your goals. If it is family or someone that you can not kick out of your life totally, tell them how you feel, how important it is to you, and that if they can not help you, that you at least need them to stop trying to hold you back. If that is not something they can do, then limiting your exposure to those people will simply have to be limited.
As harsh as that sounds, seriously…who wants to spend all their time with a “Negative Nelly”? NOT ME! And I won’t!
Find your happy, or at least don’t try to diminish mine, or there is not a place for you in my “Posse”.
Let’s MAKE this a GREAT WEEKEND!!!
Head UP! Shoulders BACK! Smile ON! Now get out there and take on the world!!!
DAY 20 –
30-Days To a More Confident You!
Day 20 – Challenge Your Negative Self-Talk!
This takes us right back to having a positive attitude and surrounding yourself with positivity. That MUST start between your ears!
I have to head out for now, but will be back to revisit this later this afternoon.
Head UP! Shoulders BACK! Smile ON! Now get out there and take on the world!!!
***I never got back in to talk about this more, but The time is NOW to ditch the Negative Self-Talk! SERIOUSLY! It does absolutely NOTHING for you but tear you down! You wouldn’t talk to someone you love the way you talk to yourself, right? Well now is the time to start loving yourself enough to only lift yourself up, NOT tear yourself down. You can either be your biggest asset, or your biggest liability. Which will you CHOOSE to be?***
DAY 21 –
30-Days To a More Confident You!
Day 21 – Sort Out The “Shoulds”!
What does this mean to me?
Sometimes, the word “should” is a BAD word! I used to put too much pressure on myself to look a certain way because I thought I “SHOULD” look like that. And then I would beat myself up because I didn’t live up to what I “should” be. Well what I thought I should look like, was the women on the covers of fitness magazines. Then, I was told that most of them don’t even really look that perfect! Lighting, angle, the right flex at the right moment, and even airbrushing sometimes help them obtain that “perfect look”. So in that sense, I dropped the “should’s”.
On the other hand, sometimes I use the word “should” to put things in order. Because sometimes what I want to do and what I should do are two different things. I have to remember to match my “should’s” with my goal over my wants. I may WANT a big cheesy pizza in the middle of the week. But I know that it will NOT help me reach my fitness goals. It is OK to have a couple pieces for my cheat meal on Fridays, but other than that, I know that I “should” skip it.
Same with exercise. There are nights after work, that I would truly LOVE to just sit and have a little down time and brush up on my couch cushion molding skills! LOL! But would that get me closer to my goals? It is important to remember that your “should’s” are there to get you to your goals. What you SHOULD do, is the difference between what you want NOW and what you want MOST!
More than anything in the world, I want to be a healthy and fit role model and help others reach their personal health and fitness goals. So SHOULD I have couch and pizza nights? YES! But they should be the exception, NOT the rule!
Head UP! Shoulders BACK! Smile ON! Now get out there and take on the world!!!
I will work on making posting in here a SHOULD on my “To-Do” List, and get in here more often! I am even going to experiment with dong a few video blogs. Mainly, because today I start my T25 Challenge with myself! I am going to KILL this program! In 10 weeks, I am aiming to get back to where I was when I felt I looked my best. Maybe even BETTER! 🙂