How do you see YOU? And what excuses are you using to keep from changing that?

WOW!  It has been over a MONTH since my last blog!  I would say I am sorry, but life has simply been amazingly busy lately.  My “Get Me Through The Holidays Support and Accountability Challenge Group” is doing AMAZING!  They have lost OVER 150# so far, with 2 weeks to go!  And here I was just hoping to keep from gaining any during the holidays, but these girls are kicking booty and inspiring me to lose some of the weight that I had put on over this stressful summer.

Add in getting ready for Christmas, and around my house, that means decorating!  They don’t call me”Griswold” for nothing! 😉  But I think I am done and ready to just enjoy the rest of the holiday season.  Not baking as much this year, because…well….does anyone REALLY need it?  Traditional triple chocolate cake and rum cake both have to be made, along with a couple cookies, but that is about it.

OK…I am getting off track.  But now that you know that I have been a little busy, back to the task at hand.

HOW do you see you?

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No matter where you are in your journey, Day 1 or at your goal, you must see yourself, flaws and all, as a beautiful person.  Because YOU are the only person who can do this for you!  It is time to set the BS excuses that you tell yourself aside and get busy improving your health!  Excuses are just lies you tell others so that you can try to convince yourself that you have a legitimate reason for not getting something done.  Trust me, I do it all the time.  I am the Queen of the Procrastination Excuse!

But now it is time to debunk a few excuses.  Since excuses are just lies that you tell yourself, you owning up to yourself on the ones that are calling you out is going to help you decide to commit to the work so that you can finally see real success.

#1~ I don’t have time!  REALLY?!?!  Did you REALLY just say that to me?  I have a full time job, a part time job, and my own business.  Not to mention a family of 7, yes, all 4-legger kids, but they need taken care of and love and affection too!  Yes, I know I procrastinate on many things that if I just did them, I could be so much farther in my business and have better relationships.  But those are my fears to deal with, and right now we are talking about YOU! 😉

If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, take action, and ASK FOR HELP in that action.  Human engagement is what is lacking in so many plans to “get healthy”.  You don’t have to do it alone.  I will be your accountability, but YOU must first reach out and make the commitment to do the work.

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#2 – But I am too out of shape to do what what it takes to get fit.  This one is, well, I am sorry to tell you, but just DUMB!  Do you REALLY think I started out where I am now?  I got winded on my first walk going just a block from my house and back.  My first set of push ups was against a wall, and I could only do 4!  It is about taking the first step.  I know it is hard!  Trust me, I know!  And yes, there will be tears.  There will be doubt.  And there will be times you want to quit.  But it is not just a workout or nutrition plan you are quitting on, You are quitting on your WHY.  Remember the reason you wanted to start down this path, and honor that by taking that first step, continuing to take each next step, and never giving up!

 

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#3 – But the progress is SO SLOW.  You have GOT to stop living in the “Instant” Society!  Things that you get for free or things that come quickly, how much do you REALLY appreciate them?  We all have FREE workouts and diet plans available to us at the click of a mouse.  I myself have given away my own workouts and diet plans, the EXACT things that I did and lost 125#, and for the most part, they basically ended up in the garbage.  I find that many people do not truly appreciate something if it is handed to them.  I myself lost 87# back in 1996, very quickly.  Within 4 months of my goal date, I had gained back 35#.  And within 5 years, had gained it all back, and they brought friends.  Why? because I did it in a way that was focused around deprivation and fast weight loss.  The progress in the pic below, took me years!  To lose the weight, gain the muscle, achieve my fit, athletic body.  It didn’t come fast, and it didn’t come from starvation, deprivation, or a magic potion.  It came from deciding to commit to doing the work it was going to take to make a LASTING success.

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#4- I will just end up with loose skin again and that makes me feel just as bad as being fat because I still won’t look good in a bikini.  Scars, stretch marks, loose skin.  I have them all.  But I have learned to wear them with pride.  Here is a poem that my friend Mark Cummings wrote about being proud of your scars~

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I wrote this for all those who have been scared inside and out. Don’t forget you’re still here because you have a purpose and you are STRONG ENOUGH, and GOOD ENOUGH to earn what you’re worth!

 

These scars I wear with pride

These scars I dare not hide

Remember the battles I have fought

Remember the lessons I was taught

 

On the surface and inside deep

Onward and upward to my feet

And if my struggles get too hard

I’ll look down to see my scars

 

Though at times they appear unsightly

But only because my fights been mighty

So These scars I wear with pride

And these scars I dare not hide


-Mark Cummings-

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A little more of my views on the subject from my personal experience:

The scars I have, both the mental and physical, remind me of what I have lived through to become the strong person I am today.  The stretch marks, remind me how hard it is to be obese, and the shame of people seeing me.  And last but not least, the loose skin.  I have been asked many times if I was going to have surgery to get rid of it, but to be honest, it has tightened up some, and although I know it will always somewhat be there, I have learned to accept it for what it is.  Oh sure, I will never look HOT in a bikini, and I still have issues with anyone seeing my belly, and a padded, push-up bra is going to be a necessity for the rest of my life, but then I think back, and remember… I NEVER looked HOT in anything before, and I do now!  I NEVER wanted anyone to see my belly when I was closing in on 300# either, so nothing new there.  And I NEVER had voluptuous, perky boobs anyway, so what is the difference?  LOL!

What is the difference?

I am no longer Pre-diabetic.  I no longer have a cholesterol reading of “gravy”.  I no longer have high BP.  I can walk up a flight of steps without getting out of breath.  I RAN A FREAKING MARATHON!  I teach Zumba classes.  I am sitting here writing on a health and fitness blog!!!  And because my passion to help others feel the way I feel now, with more confidence, more energy, less headache from worry about what health issue is going to pop up next, I became a Beachbody Coach.  I have always wanted to help people.  As a young student, I wanted to be a chiropractor, so I started my medical career by going to the vocational center at my high school and getting certified as a nursing assistant.  When I got pregnant my senior year, and then lost the baby, I also lost all ambitions of returning to school, so I settled in as a CNA at a nursing home.  When I got hurt, and told I could not return, I got a job in the business office at a local pharmacy.  I thought at least I would still have my foot in the door of a career in health.  But I had let the fire for that passion of truly making a difference burn out.  I went from being chubby and overweight to obese and then morbidly obese.  I settled in to a mediocre life.

NO MORE!

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I believe that God put me here for a reason, and I that fire has been reignited.

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If you are ready to start your journey to health and fitness, I would love to help.  Find me on Facebook @ Body By Brenda or email me at bodybybrenda@hotmail.com

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